The advice is so useful, after all these while. It has been more than two years.
I guess time does allow some changes, in terms of how the memories fade bit by bit although not all of them. But time really have not healed anything. At all. When the memories come again, when there are triggers to it, crying is the only thing I am capable of. It hurt. And it still hurts. It hurts the most knowing that trying to get to know someone else leads you to miss that one person who has already left, and reminds you of how hurt you were and how defensive you should be, and how you should never trust anyone, anymore. No matter how much you want to.
I know this needs to stop. The question is how and when.